Month: August 2018

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Why does this KEEP BUGGING me?!?!

There have been times when I have caught myself being critical of someone or allowing some else behavior to really get to me. This is nothing new to humanity and unfortunately it affects us all.

So why is it that some people can really “get under our skin” while other people we really couldn’t care any less about?

After reading Byron Katie’s book Loving What Is, I realized I had a lot to learn.

Byron does an interesting exercise, that I love! She has you write down the thought you are having about someone else.  Then she has you do a turn around.  This means you put the your name (or I) in place of the other person’s name.

Ex: I hate it when she talks about people like that.

Turn Around: I hate it when I talk about people like that.

At first I became defensive, then mad, then after a few times of trying it, I could see the behaviors in others were really things I didn’t like in me.  AHH!!! Who would have thought!

It was and still is eye opening. The awareness that this brings is amazing.

Awareness bring change!

Give it a try!

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The Way We Speak

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When I was an 8th grade teacher, I remember having parent teacher conferences.  The students that were having issues usually spoke to me as well as the other kids in class the same way one of their parents spoke to them.  It saddened me to see such demeaning words coming from any of their mouths.

This cycle is difficult to change, but so worth it.  Don’t brush off your short temper of shallow words to your personality.  You have don’t have to be like that.

I don’t like being spoken down to.  You don’t like being spoken down to!  No one does!

How about the next time you you catch yourself speaking down to a spouse or a child, you truly apologize.  Let them know it is something you want to change.  Explain that it is not a way you want to speak and that you are trying.

Watch the way they interact with you or others?  Do you want to nip it in the butt so it doesn’t get passed on?

You can stop it, but you must first be aware!

How about building each other up! No criticizing!

Start with yourself! Do the self coaching necessary to get this under control.

Let’s change this cycle!

 
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My Image of Myself

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Why was I so mean to myself?

I wanted so badly to love myself!
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Image of Myself

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I am pretty sure I am not the only women in the world that continuously struggles with the way I view my body.  The unfortunate thing is, I remember starting this at a young age.

High school years is where I became very aware and felt as if I was the most unattractive human on earth.  I didn’t dare share my thoughts because it seemed like everyone that heard me say anything along those lines would try to give me compliments thinking that would be the anecdote for my problem.  

Fast forward through years of trying to love myself, I was in constant dissonance.  My mind would go crazy trying to find all the flaws I had, but then I would feel terrible because I was trying to be loving to myself as well. The battle in my head was real and continues to creep in if I am not careful.  

Loving myself is a daily battle as I try to quiet and replace my negative thoughts about myself.  I have grown leaps and bounds as I have worked on this daily. The daily work is something to not forget,  Just like I work on my relationship with my husband, family and friends, I am working on my relationship with me too.  It is not easy, but it has been totally worth it.

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Katie’s Journey

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From: Katie McIntosh
Date: July 23, 2018

I consider myself lucky to have known Dana Palmer for the past 14 years. In that time I have not only experienced it for myself, but have seen what her gift can do to change the lives of others.

Over the past few months, she has been “Coaching” me – although I like to add the the words “Mentoring” “Inspiring” “Guiding” “Teaching” or “Reminding” me.

I have been married for almost fourteen years, and have three amazing children ages 12, 11 and 9 and am at a point in my life where I felt caught up in the thick of thin things. I had let things that shouldn’t matter, take over. I was letting the thoughts and actions of others control me. I felt lost. I had given other people the power to hurt me. I didn’t know who I was anymore. It was an overwhelming and awful feeling.

My sessions with Dana, utilizing the Thought Model, have helped me re prioritize and re focus my life. Some changes have been simple and small, and some are huge. Dana reminded me that I have to believe in myself. That making myself a priority is not wrong or selfish. That I was built to handle hard things and that happiness, true happiness, is possible.

I have the power to change my path at any time. And that was the best lesson of all. I cannot recommend Dana enough. I will be forever grateful for her role in changing my life.

-Katie

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The Way We Speak

Do you pay attention how you speak to those closest to you? The way you speak will influence generations to come!
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Why does this keep bugging me?

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Why can’t I Love being intimate?

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