Creating your own drama?

Have you ever been known someone that always seems to have something huge going wrong in their life?  It seems like they can’t get a break?  Maybe this is you.

If it is you, or someone close to you, let me shed a little light about what is going on.

Like attracts Like

When someone has a lot of drama going on in their head, then they have a lot of drama in their life.

Someone that has a lot of anger in their head, has a lot of anger in their life.

Someone that has a lot of chaos in their head, has a lot of chaos in their life.

You attract into your life, whatever it is that is going on in your head.  That is exactly why some people can seem to have a no drama life.  They most likely don’t let drama take place in their head.

So if you are one of those people with drama in your life, maybe it is something you should assess. It is a good idea to really pay attention to what is going on in your head.

What is on your mind most of the day?

Are most of your thoughts negative or positive?

Do you show much gratitude?  If not, start with the small stuff.

How do you view the world?  Are you enjoying that view?

If you want change

If you want change in your life, then you must change your thoughts.  That is the bottom line.  If like attracts like, then you must begin to think in a way that you want to live.

If you want peace, then you must begin to find the peace in your mind.

If you want love, then you must begin to show the love in your mind.

It may be difficult, but it is worth it.  Imagine what you can change.



Allowing yourself to be Sad

Who ever said it was bad

Growing up it seemed as if it was a bad thing to be sad.  If you were sad then it would quickly need to be changed.  Being known as the “crybaby” in the family, there were plenty of times I was sad.

I don’t fully remember what I was sad about, but I do remember when it was happening that I had in the back of my mind that I needed to quickly change it.  Get myself happy.

As I have experienced life, I have come to understand that sadness is okay.  It is something that a human can handle.  As a matter of fact, I believe it is something we as human need to experience.

If you never experience hunger you would never appreciate being full.  If you never experienced a cloudy day, you would never appreciate the sun.

What if that is how it is supposed to be?

If you never experience sadness, you can never fully appreciate your happiness.

There is nothing wrong with you if you are feeling sadness.   The key is to recognize when you are done feeling sad.

When you are done, then you can make the mental or physical changes needed to move to a different state of being.

Remember, life is 50/50.  50% positive emotions and 50% negative emotions.

So if you aren’t “happy” all of the time, then you are human.  And that is exactly what you are supposed to be.

Need help with this one.  Let me know.  I love being there to assist woman as they figure this one out!





SHAME as a Buffer

As women we can be so hard on ourselves.  We shame ourselves when we don’t eat right.  We shame ourselves when we didn’t exercise.  When we didn’t get the job done.  If you were to keep track, the number of times you shame yourself each day is probably a little outrageous.

Why do we even do this?

It seems as if we think it is a good tool to get us into action. I don’t know about you, but when I am feeling shameful, I want to run and hide.  I don’t think I am the only one.  It really isn’t getting us into action.  It is having the opposite affect, yet we do it over and over.

Working with women with infertility, I have noticed that this is huge.  They are shameful of their inability to get pregnant.  Their in ability to create a new life.  Their inability to create a family.  If this is you, you probably know what I am talking about.

That little sucker SHAME creeps in at all times of the day.  When you least expect it.  At the store, work, with friends.

Let’s clear things up! Here is the definition of shame….

a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior.

The part that is saddening about the shame is the last part of the definition caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. 

Understand this

Unless you have consciously done something foolish or wrong, shame should not be in your vocabulary.  This is when it is good to question if you are using SHAME as a buffer.

Is shame preventing you from really understanding an issue?  Is it preventing you from growing, showing up in a new way each day?

What is shame preventing you from doing?  If you see that there is something that you aren’t doing because of your shame, then it is a good time to reassess.

I encourage clients to give it the boot, kick it out.  This complete cut off makes it much easier to recognize it when it creeps back it.

Be done with shame!  Find an emotion to replace it with.  One that will serve you. Once that will allow your body and mind to heal and become balanced.

As always, let me know if you need assistance. That is what I am here for!






Creativity the answer to so many things!

I have heard time and time again from so many women, “i’m just not the creative type.”  I even used to say this, to my embarrassment!

But let me argue otherwise. There is not a single person on this earth that is not creative.  End of story!  Really.

The difference

There isn’t a person I have met that doesn’t have the desire to be CREATIVE. It is in us.  It is a God given desire.  I would even like to say it is more of a NEED.  We even have an entire part of our body that is made of “PROCREATION.”  So when people say they aren’t creative, I remind them that their brain is lying to them again.

When I work with women coming to me from all different health and hormonal issues, especially infertility, most of them are doing nothing to be creative.  I have seen it all the way from the young to the old.  It is as most of them feel bad or frivolous taking the time each day to be creative.

Since we hold our creativity in one of our lower 3 chakras (the sacral chakra-see pic below) it is a primal need that we must fulfill in order to really thrive in this life.   

Primal Need?

If you lived back in very primal times, you would need to be creative in order to even survive.  Think about what you would do for housing, food, warmth.  You would have to get creative in order to Survive.  It was a necessity!

In our modern time, all of these things are taken care.  Most people have to really try to be creative.  These days most people think it is not something everyone has.

I want to disagree.

I know we all have the ability to be creative!

I have seen clients improve their health dramatically by taking the time to be creative each day.

Get creative with your cooking.

Change the flowers in the planter to something different.

Rearrange a room.

Doodle for 15 minutes.

Sit down and write a list of 10 ways you can…..(think of anything)

Want to get pregnant?  Then REALLY put your energy into being creative.  Creativity in your intimacy is a good place to start.

Take care of this primal need so that your body can CREATE other things (a baby).

Give it a try! See what it does for you!

If you need help, let me know.  We got this together.











Our Brain, the Biggest Liar of All!

It’s Job

It sounds awful saying that the brain is a liar, but stick with me here.  Your primitive brain really REALLY wants to keep you safe! It wants to make sure you don’t get hurt, eaten by a lion, or put into a dangerous situation.

So it protects you by telling you lies!

Think of the last time you tried something new or came up with a new idea. What is the first thing that happened as soon as you decided to do it?

Your brain freaked out!  It came came up with 100 reasons why you should not do it.  Fear kicked in, doubt started to have it’s voice, and the covers sounded like a good place to go.

The Real Deal

By causing all of those emotions to run through your body, your brain thinks it is keeping you safe. But what really is it keeping you safe from?

Really, think about it.  The only thing is is keeping you from doing is feeling something.  That something is an emotion.  An emotion is only a vibration.  So if you know this and you know that all your brain is trying to do is stop you from feeling a vibration, then the rest of the stuff it makes up, is just a lie.

It is just a story so that you won’t put yourself at risk.  Isn’t that crazy.  None of it is true,

So all the reason you are saying you can’t do something are really just lies.  You aren’t going to die.

So what is stopping you?

What story is your brain telling you?

You get to Choose

You get to choose wether you believe your brains stories or not.  it is that simple.  What are you going to believe?

If you are having a hard time seeing your brains lies, lets talk.  Let’s get to the bottom of it!

I can help!