When I was an 8th grade teacher, I remember having parent teacher conferences. The students that were having issues usually spoke to me as well as the other kids in class the same way one of their parents spoke to them. It saddened me to see such demeaning words coming from any of their mouths.
This cycle is difficult to change, but so worth it. Don’t brush off your short temper of shallow words to your personality. You have don’t have to be like that.
I don’t like being spoken down to. You don’t like being spoken down to! No one does!
How about the next time you you catch yourself speaking down to a spouse or a child, you truly apologize. Let them know it is something you want to change. Explain that it is not a way you want to speak and that you are trying.
Watch the way they interact with you or others? Do you want to nip it in the butt so it doesn’t get passed on?
You can stop it, but you must first be aware!
How about building each other up! No criticizing!
Start with yourself! Do the self coaching necessary to get this under control.
Let’s change this cycle!